“ Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.”
-Viktor E. Frankl
If I ask you what does it really mean to be happy or what is happiness for you, then most of us will not be able to define it in words. In fact, to define the real meaning of happiness is really not easy because what we treasure is just the diminutive form of it. Some of us will say its a state of being happy and for some others, it may be having a luxurious life with lots of money. However, for others, it may simply lie in small things. Many of us may feel happy just by helping others or by spending a quality time with our family, there are more such things which will make you feel happy about yourself. According to me, your happiness lies within yourself. But what if you are depressed, disheartened and full of overwhelming negative thoughts?
Then here are some quick tips to train and rewire your brain for happiness:
- Stop being materialistic and going behind perfectionism:
We all long for a perfect life, but in this race of being perfect, we forget that happiness is left behind. Always keep in mind that nobody is perfect in this world. So, invest your time and energy in doing better than before rather than trying to be perfect. We usually attach our happiness to the worldly things and then begins our fear to lose them. Hence, rather than stuffing your life with the material wealth; fill your life with blessings, good relations, true love, ethical values, and wisdom. These things will really make you happy and no one can steal them from you also. Therefore, shift your focus towards the things that are truly important in your life.
- Be socially active, but refrain yourself from comparing with others:
Being socially active helps us to make new friends, strengthen already existing bonds and nurturing new relationships. But the problem arises when you start comparing yourself with others, this is the real root of discontent and despair. Comparison only leads to resentment. Remember you are unique in your own way and if you are comparing yourself with others, you are insulting your uniqueness and wasting your precious time. Instead of comparing and competing with others, try to find inspiration from others and be a better version of yourself so that you can pursue things which are more significant in life.
- Change the way you think:
It is our human tendency to get easily affected even by a small criticism from others and get upset. But if we think about it deeply, it is not those criticizing thoughts that make us feel sad or miserable, but it is our response to those thoughts which affect our mind and state of happiness. So, before being upset with those criticisms, give that situation a second thought and think if those words or the person who criticized you really matters in your life or not. Life is too short to care about what others think about us, so, change your mental attitude and in this way, you can be happy.
- Be optimistic:
According to a study, it was found that our genes predict about 40-45% of our capacity to be happy. Then what about the rest 50%? It simply depends on us and on our way of thinking. So be optimistic and see the good in everything and avoid the negativity. By being optimistic, it does not mean that you don’t accept the reality, but it means that we are hopeful enough to see the brighter sides of the situation. Optimism not only keeps us motivated but also gives us the ability to see an opportunity in every calamity and also the confidence to face every situation with a smiling face.
- Learn to be resilient:
Resilience means to withstand and recover quickly from difficult conditions. Learn to let the past go off and find happiness in your present. According to a recent study, we are affected by bad situations only for 15-20 min, but it is our prolonged thinking that disheartens us and makes those difficult situations look bigger than they actually are. It is not our mistake if something bad happens in our past, but it will be our mistake if we don’t learn from it and continue to better things. Learn to start accepting the past and find happiness in your present and in this way you can change your future.
- Develop an attitude of gratitude:
Gratitude allows us to appreciate the things we have in our life already. Make a list of all the blessings in your life and then you will see how blessed you are. These things may not necessarily be physically seen or felt, but it may be the love, care, and affection of our friends and family. Therefore, instead of taking things for granted, be grateful for all the blessings you have because everything you have now was once among the things you really prayed for.
- Yoga and exercising:
Exercise helps to relax your nervous system, whereas Yoga can help you to be less grumpy. Doing exercises not only helps in alleviating your stress but also helps to improve your concentration level by calming your mind. It is really a nice way to allow the flow of positive energy through your body by releasing tension. Let these positive vibes remind you that you are entirely imputed for your happiness.
- Always focus on your health:
Both happiness and health are mutually dependent on each other.Having good health not only means physical health but emotional and mental health also. Research says that people who are emotionally healthy can face all the challenges of life and are able to recover from difficulties. Therefore, get a hold of your emotions as well as your health if you want to be really happy. Have a balanced diet because eating right can make you jovial.
- Keep following your passion:
Dreams give you the reason to wake up in the morning every day and try again to reach your goals.Therefore, dream and do what makes you happy and content. Follow your dreams,your passion, and your heart. By chasing your dreams you not only make yourself happy, but you can inspire others to do the same.
- Start believing in yourself:
The key to happiness lies in the fact that how much you believe in yourself and how you face the situation when the whole world is against you. Go ahead and trust yourself, then ultimately you will have a simple, peaceful and happy life.
Keep in mind that happiness is your birthright so just don’t let it go away due to some doltish people and stupid reasons. Happiness is contagious. So spread smile that goes a mile. Make others happy, but make sure one of them is you.